On a crisp morning this past fall, running low on diapers, Denaesha Gonzalez packed up her two-year-old son and headed for her local Target.
While passing through the baby accessory aisle, this Nashville mom noticed a familiar sight — a silver clutch handbag that retails for $20 misplaced on the shelf of the baby aisle. It didn't take long for this 28-year-old to realize this misplaced accessory meant something more profound: A mom with a young child sacrificed something she wanted to buy to purchase something for her baby.
She posted a 17-second video on her Instagram account with the text: SHE DESERVED THE PURSE, hoping it might resonate with other mothers but having no idea how deeply it would resonate and the impact it would have.
The #shedeservedthepurse challenge took off when mom influencer Cecily Bauchman told her 2 million followers that Gonzalez's video inspired her. Bauchman then posted a vlog of her buying a $100 Target gift card. On the back of the receipt, she wrote, "Hey! You deserve that special 'you' thing. You are amazing!" She slipped the gift card and note in a package of Huggies diapers.
Since then, her video has gone viral, with over 26 million views and over 400,000 comments. It also has inspired people to hide money in diaper boxes and formula containers to allow a mom struggling to buy something for herself.
"I haven't had my hair done in years. My nails done in years. My clothes come from Walmart. We can't afford childcare," one mother wrote under Gonzalez's video. "But my babies have what they need. One day, I'll have the purse, just not today."
As teachers, you sacrifice much to serve your students cognitively, emotionally, and financially. My father once told me that as a teacher, I got paid less because I got the summers off - to which I responded, "I don't get summers off; your vacations are paid, and what would I make at your business with a Masters Degree and twenty years experience?"
Most of you would see a significant pay raise if you were to leave the classroom. But you stay, and you and your loved ones carry a portion of that burden.
You deserve the purse.
I have been sitting on this blog for over a month because I was searching for a way to adopt the inspiration of generosity and bring a similar sentiment to music education. I chewed on it (pardon the pun) for Thanksgiving but could not see it clearly. I was sure I could make it a holiday activity, but thinking it through is problematic. I considered:
Hiding something at my local music store, but it is in an affluent area and would not likely impact choral teachers.
Doing a giveaway at The Midwest Clinic, but the attendees can afford to attend - so they can afford the purse.
Putting a button on this email and giving away to random people, but requiring you to request it takes away the surprise.
Mailing something out to random people on this list - but I would never know if I was filling a need - and lack mailing addresses.
Using social media feels icky and more like a publicity stunt.
As I said, this is problematic.
So here I sit, on December 10th, gnawing on an idea that I know has a solution - I can feel it, but I cannot locate it within me. It's not for lack of thought or time. I have dedicated a considerable amount of both, but the clock is ticking.
Our sacrifice is communal and universal, so we accept it as a choice that we made to do the job we love. But the fact that our profession was a choice should not diminish the sacrifices you and your colleagues have endured.
I am determined to find a way to celebrate a colleague(s) in the next 14 days, and I challenge you to do the same. If you want to share your idea with me - I would love to hear it. You can inspire me and get my creative juices flowing.
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If nothing else, please consider this your unrequested and unapologetic note telling you that...
You deserve the purse.
Have a great week!
Scott
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